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Tresses & I

Violated & Adorned

Thursday
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14
January
2016

Tresses & I

Violated & Adorned

Thursday
,
14
January
2016
Guru Granth Sahib
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Tresses & I

Violated & Adorned

Thursday
,
14
January
2016

Embark on a poignant journey with the author as she reflects on her evolving relationship with her hair, exploring the nuanced layers of Sikh identity, love for Sabad, and the profound impact of choices made during the tumultuous times of 1984.

Embark on a poignant journey with the author as she reflects on her evolving relationship with her hair, exploring the nuanced layers of Sikh identity, love for Sabad, and the profound impact of choices made during the tumultuous times of 1984.

Witness the author's transformation, guided by the gentle touch of gratitude.

“Why do Sikh girls violate themselves by cutting their hair?” he asks.

I hear the anguish in his voice.

I see the pain in his eyes.

I say nothing. There is nothing I can say.

I, too, was one of those girls.

Seems like a lifetime ago and yet not so.

In my late teens, I began trimming my hair to take care of the split ends. Or so I said.

Then a few inches came off, and another few inches as time went by.

To answer this question: Did I feel violated?

No. On the contrary, I felt liberated.

Foolish thinking but a prerogative of youth.

1984 transpired.

I stopped trimming my hair.

I don’t know why. But I did.

Years flew.

Hair grew.

I didn’t dwell on it.

The hair was just there.

Then…

Sabad entered my life.

Everything changed.

The hair that was just there—it became my jewel.

I nurtured it. I honored it.

Because I fell in love with Sabad.

And, when one is in love, one yearns to be drenched in the color of one’s love.

My love affair continues.

My hair grows.

The hair that was once black is now turning silver.

For someone who hated the mirror, I find myself gazing at it every morning and rejoicing. My hair has become a work of art. And I am loving this phase.

And every night, before I go to bed, I brush my long tresses and am filled with gratitude. How lucky can I be?

It’s been quite the journey.

And the journey continues.

Will you, my dearest friend, think less of me, or will you understand?

That I changed only because I fell in love.

Nothing more, nothing less.

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Inni Kaur is Creative Director at the Sikh Research Institute (SikhRI). She has served SikhRI in several capacities since 2010, including Chair of the Board, and most recently as CEO. 

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